Sunday, November 29, 2009

Dear Parents of Adult Children....

I carry a burden in my heart for you if you are a parent of an adult child. When my children were small and as they entered each new phase of their life over the years, no one could have told me that "adulthood" would be the most difficult phase of all to witness. Once they enter adulthood, you realize that your parental control slips and you must often sit by and witness choices that you would have advised against. I need to pause and say how much God has blessed me with both of my children - my daughter will admit when she has made a mistake and is not too proud to ask for prayer when needed. My son, still at home for now, prays almost daily with us and honors a decent bedtime hour in our home without us asking him to. Still, there are times Mike and I must sit back and let them workout the heartache and trials of day-to-day life. As I walked through a christian book store the other day, I found a book titled, "The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children", by Stormie O'Martian. I am usually not one to read books with prepared prayers but knowing that the author has adult children prompted me to buy the book. I'm still in the introduction of the book and already have found it to be full of wisdom and scripture that can be applied daily. She begins with a list of seven things every parent of an adult child needs to know. Here are the subtitles:
(1) You need to know it never ends
(2) You need to know you can't fix them.
(3) You need to know God can change everything.
(4) You need to know that you must stop blaming yourself.
(5) You need to know how to forgive (and how to ask for forgiveness).
(6) You need to know there is only one perfect parent.
(7) You need to know that you can wholeheartedly say, "For this adult child I prayed".

Of course, she expounds in great detail each subtitle in the list. I did not intend this post to be a sales pitch for a book but only to spark your interest if you are struggling with how and what to pray for your adult child in this season of his/her life. There will never be a time when we will be exempt from loving, caring, and praying for our children.


AngelRhoden said...

Thanks for this reminder, Sue. I have known how blessed I am having all our children under our roof for the last few years, but I'm watching as these years pass quickly and the inevitable happens...they get older and leave! Eventually I guess we realize all we really have is prayer and relying on Him, but while they're under roof we tend to think we actually have some control!

Barbara said...

It never ends....truer words were never matter how adult they get, you will continue to worry and watch as they struggle just like we have in the past with some of the same issues. Sounds like a great book.

LisaShaw said...

Sue, I'm making rounds before I go off blogs for a while...

I wanted to say Merry CHRISTmas and happy New Year to you and your family dear sister. It's been a treat in the short time I've known you and I'm excited about 2010. Love you.

Lelia Chealey said...

Hello! I came over here from Lisa Shaw's blog. Thank you for this post...I so need it and will get this book this weekend.
Bless you for sharing it!